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A guide to enjoying God’s gift of married sexual pleasure, now in trade paper. A Celebration of Sex for Newlyweds answers specific, often unasked questions about sexual topics, and presents newly-marrie… More >>
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I’ll be getting married in the coming months and purchased this book as an introduction to a world neither I nor my fiancée knew much about. By and large, the book is a decent introduction manual to certain discussions that ought to be had between couples in the months leading up to the wedding, and in the months and years after. Sex can be a daunting thing, especially in a society which hypes it beyond belief. It is also a gift of God; how terrible it would be to let the world ruin one of the greatest joys God has given us this side of eternity! Insofar as that goes, this book is fine, it’s the supposed spiritual aspect of it that makes one wonder.
There’s a decent amount of biblical quotations in the book, and as you read through you realize that aspect of it is somewhat downplayed. That would be fine; it’s a book about sex, not a commentary on the Bible. My primary concern is this: a total lack of Christ-crucified. In the last pages of the book, the point is made that previous (that is, premarital and sinful) sexual encounters can plague a couple (or individual) in making love to their newfound spouse. “Pray together for healing and the wisdom to overcome the consequences of sin as you appropriate deeper forgiveness before and during the honeymoon.” Certainly this is a very real issue that confronts many, many Christian couples. Sin is a reality, and one which can haunt forever. But the solution is not to “pray for healing” but to go to the cross! If this is a Christian book, where is Jesus? The solution here is that “the blood of Jesus… purifies us from all sin”! Some esoteric understanding of a greater good is not what is needed to confront the troubles sin brings to a marriage, but a belief by both parties that all their sins are removed by Jesus’ death on the cross.
Some Christians may be troubles by the encouragement to be “selfish” in sex. I really think he hits this point over the head far too often. The sinful instinct will be to revel in sex for one’s own gratification. A mention that it is not wrong to enjoy sex, and an encouragement to understand what you enjoy to communicate that is all that would’ve been needed. Further encouragements of wanting to give rather than receive would’ve been better.
The other very troubling section in this book is the topic of birth control. He suggests “intrauterine devices” that “caus[e] the uterus to reject the fertilized egg.” He then adds the qualification, “For some couples, this might violate personal ethics.” Who cares if it violates my personal ethics? This silent abortion is sin in God’s eyes and ought not even have a place in this book, save for telling the reality of it and telling couples to stay far away. Truly a disappointing addition to a so-called Christian book.
The technical advice and suggestions for discussions between spouses give this book a higher rating. It would’ve been a wonderful book if it had dropped the façade of being “Christian” and sold itself simply as a advice manual on sex for newlyweds. But even that is somewhat lacking. The topics are so rushed in this short book that probably after reading it, you and your future (or current) spouse will want to find some other book that treat the subjects in a broader fashion.
In the end, this book is a decent introduction rampant with horrible theology and wishy-washy spirituality.
Rating: 3 / 5
So its a shower for a young woman in Seminary – she is a very quiet studious type and is marrying a guy doing PhD work in Economics. Most of the group are young women all in seminary studying to be Presbyterian Ministers. She opened the box with this book and the “crowd went wild.” Ha I hope she gets more out of it than just laughs at the shower but I was amazed to hear how little imagination these young women brought to what is arguably the most important piece of marriage. Thanks for the book, I hope it works the same majic in their marriage as it did at the shower!
Rating: 5 / 5
My fiancee and I, following the advice of our pastor, started reading this book a few days before our wedding and continued during the honeymoon. All I can say is that it is extremely helpful. From physical, technical advice, to discussing how to make sex an integral part of your intimate relationship, it really gave us a great start in exploring this post-marital world.
Everything Rosenau says lines up with the Word, and we found ourselves resonating with all of his instruction. Very insightful book written by a wise man!
Rating: 5 / 5
Dr. Douglas Rosenau says “It takes a mature person to understand that the emotional center of the apex is not orgasm, but a surrender to feelings and each other.” (p.37) The great thing about being a Single’s minister is you get to read books on sex! Before we got married, I read a couple of books on “Circling the Wagons” (our infertility doctor had several euphemisms, this is one). That doesn’t make me an expert but shall we say I don’t mind the topic.
Churches don’t always do a good job of talking about sex. We tell kids “DON’T DO IT” when they have all the equipment – and desire – but then when it’s time for them to marry, sometimes we don’t give them good information on how to use their equipment. Nor do we tell them that marriage is not just about getting personal needs met but meeting the needs of the other. This book is not just a book about sex but about taking care of your partner and giving yourself selflessly to him or her.
This book is good information for those who are getting married. It doesn’t matter if you have been married before and you’re going into your second (or third, or…) marriage. You need to read this book. As the opening quote indicates, sex is more than just getting “serviced” for your physiological needs. Sex is about intimacy between a man and a woman in a committed, life-long marriage.
A Celebration of Sex for Newlyweds is only about 120 pages, easy to read, gives tips and how-to’s, and has pictures! But – you won’t feel like you’re reading a dirty book (I know some of you will be disappointed about that). This book will help you achieve a lasting marriage not just through great sex (that can help) but through an ever-growing, ever-lasting intimacy. Find it here at Amazon.
One caution – if you’re engaged, wait until a week or two before the wedding before you start reading this.
Rating: 5 / 5
“Celebration of Sex for Newlyweds” has received top rating, and has been awarded a position as one of the “Top-10 Books on Sex and Marriage” by the Christian Marriage Mentors Association (CMMA). For other book reviews on sex in marriage from the Christian Marriage Mentors Association, visit: [...]. CMMA does not sell books, but all of the books recommended on the CMMA Top-10 Book on Sex and Marriage list can be found here at Amazon.
Written for newlyweds and for those who are soon to be married, Celebration of Sex for Newlyweds is a condensed and shortened version of the well-known book by the same author, “Celebration of Sex.” Those wanting more than a brief treatment of the sex in marriage topic for newlyweds should purchase the other version, “Celebration of Sex.”
Though “Celebration of Sex for Newlyweds” was written specifically to help those who have just become married, and for those couples who are in their first year of marriage, it is also fitting reading for anyone who is soon to be married. Additionally, it is helpful for any married person who wants a quick-read refresher on the basic building blocks of great sex in marriage. For engaged couples and newlyweds, we recommend that you purchase two copies so that the new husband and wife can each read this book at the same time, highlighting and making notes, and then in the early days of marriage, discuss the things they are learning.
This is a lightweight pocket-size paperback, 5″ w x 7″ h and only 128 pages, so it’s easy to take along on your honeymoon if you want to pave the way for great sex in marriage, right from the start. As a Christian marriage counselor and sex therapist himself, Dr. Rosenau knows what newlywed couples experience, and what they need for planning a great honeymoon, and for the pivotal first year of marriage.
Dr. Rosenau’s goal with this little book is to help newlyweds create a passionate and happy marriage from the wedding night forward. Couples who are prepared with realistic expectations, and armed with sex techniques, and a greater understanding of the opposite sex, are better able to enjoy wedding night intimacy. And, they will discover more fulfilling sex throughout their entire marriage.
Sexual intimacy is one of God’s most incredible gifts, yet it is a gift we need to learn how to use and enjoy. Whether an individual or couple have been sexually active before marriage, or are entering into marriage as virgins (or one of each), the task of becoming intimate emotionally and physically, as a married couple, takes time. It also takes effort and new skills. Dr Rosenau shows newlyweds how to do it.
Sure, this book teaches the mechanics of sex techniques and sex positions, but it includes much more than that. It also orients the reader to the emotional and physical differences between men and women. It offers creative ways to physically and emotionally meet the needs of your partner, and how to guide your partner so that they can give you more pleasure, too. It’s about oneness and intimacy, not only about the actions and activities of great sex.
Importantly, this guide provides reliable Bible-based and Christian marriage and sex instruction. It includes details of how to resolve the most common sexual barriers and problems that newlyweds encounter, including fears and unreasonable expectations, and helps newlyweds get on the same page together in regard to sex and marriage. The straightforward, commonsense guidelines help the reader learn how to weave sexual fulfillment into the very fabric of their marriage relationship, making it possible to achieve oneness in wise, wonderful and wildly passionate ways.
About the Author:
Douglas Rosenau, EdD, is a licensed psychologist, marriage and family therapist, and certified sex therapist. He is also trained in Christian theology, and attended Dallas Theological Seminary where he received a graduate degree relating to the nature of God and the teachings of the Bible. Rosenau is currently an adjunct professor at Psychological Studies Institute (Atlanta, GA). He is also co-founder of Sexual Wholeness (Duluth, GA), a Christian organization that seeks to promote intimacy from a biblical perspective, and “sexual wholeness by unveiling God’s Truth about sexuality.”
The author is a nationally known speaker on Christian sex and marriage, and he maintains a private Christian sex therapy practice in which he focuses on treatment based on both his extensive professional studies and a sound biblical perspective. A “Diplomate” of the American Board of Sexology, Rosenau also serves as an adjunct professor at Reformed Theological Seminary (Orlando, FL), team-teaching Human Sexuality in their Masters in Counseling program. He is a Full Clinical Member of the Society for Sex Therapy and Research (SSTAR), and is highly regarded by professional sex therapists in the secular community as well as by other Christian marriage counselors and church audiences.
Though the author teaches from a Christian sex and marriage orientation, we have found this book is useful for anyone interested in sound, tried-and-true truth about sex in marriage. Great marriage sex, sexual intimacy, and a happy marriage aren’t just an accident of fate. The marriage tips and sex tips in this book are solid. And, they are compatible with Catholic marriage teaching (except in regard to methods of preventing pregnancy), evangelical marriage concerns about accurate Bible and sex teaching, and Christian sex standards as advocated by us here at the Christian Marriage Mentor’s Association where it has earned a place in our list of Top-10 Books on Sex and Marriage. For the non-religious, the teaching contained in this book is also compatible with secular sex therapy standards, and takes into account healthy sex from a medical perspective. If you want wedding night intimacy like Adam and Eve enjoyed in the Garden of Eden, this book will help get you there. We highly recommend it.
Rating: 5 / 5