There are some times when even those with the healthiest sexual appetites will not be in the mood. This is especially prevalent in women, but it happens to men quite a bit as well, especially if he is feeling tired, stressed or upset over something. It can also be a sign of poor health. When this happens once in a while, it’s really no cause for alarm, but when you find that it happens consistently, then it’s time to start figuring out what the problem is and how to fix it.
In many people, causes of low libido tend to be illness, being tired, problems in the relationship or in women, recent labor and delivery of a baby. While some of these things will require some assistance in mending low libido, other things can be dealt with by learning how to get in the mood even when you start out in the exact wrong mood for sex. For women in particular, the phrase, Fake it ’til you Make it is the only way to go at least at first. This is because many women, if they go without for a while, can get used to it and so getting back into it requires a bit of acting. However fake it sounds, it is important to improve libido or else you’ll find yourself having a harder and harder time getting in the mood.
Another way to increase libido even when you have almost none is to schedule sex in and make sure to stick with it. That way, you won’t have any reason to excuse yourself, so your partner will be happy, and you’ll get used to the idea of having sex and even grow to enjoy it once it becomes part of the normal routine. From there, start having sex at different times (and places!) and you’ll find that your libido will grow over time.
Finally, if you are having trouble with your sexual appetites, it may be time to start looking at your lifestyle. Eating lots of junk food and not exercising make you feel bloated and sluggish which leads to feeling less than sexy. By eating more healthily and exercising regularly, you’ll find that you not only look and feel better, you will feel more sexy as well. Cut out the alcohol and smoking as well; these things are poor to your health, it desensitizes your nerves, and it leads to problems like low lubrication and erectile dysfunction. Alcohol also tends to dim the memory of the episode which means you don’t really help yourself stay in the mood!
An increase in libido is often necessary in many aspects of a relationship; sex promotes bonding, procreation, and improves self esteem. Without it, many couples find that they drift apart and are more inclined to be waspish with each other. By doing some simple things and forcing yourself to fake it til you make it, you’ll find that over time, your libido will increase and sex will become a pleasure that you can’t do without again.
