Most men are so embarrassed about premature ejaculation that they’d never dare bring it up on their own. So, it may be up to you to broach the subject. Before you do, however, you want to be prepared. Most men by nature like to fix any problem they see. If they don’t have a way to fix it, they sometimes get frustrated. So, it would be better if you do some research first and learn how to fix the problem. That way when you broach the subject and get your man talking about it, you can let him know there is a simple way to fix the problem.
Most men view premature ejaculation as a male problem. As such, they don’t think they should involve you at all. Of course, this is exactly the opposite from what you want but your man may not understand that. You need to let him know that you feel any problem in this department is a couples problem that you should work on together and talk openly about as you do.
Some men get it in their heads that you might leave them if they come too fast all the time. The first time you bring up the subject of premature ejaculation, you need to completely eliminate any anxiety your man may have about this. Let him know how much you care about him and that you intend to stick by him through this problem as well as any others that come along.
You may want to approach the issue of premature ejaculation as a health issue. As such, your man may more easily accept you taking the lead on learning how to fix the problem. Women traditionally take the lead on health issues within the family. You can point out of course that a healthy sex life is a key ingredient to good health overall. Good sex relieves stress, helps you sleep better, and gives you a healthy heart. It is also very important to maintaining a strong male/female bond.
You also want to eliminate as much performance anxiety as possible. The best way to do this is to flat out tell your man that you do not expect him to perform every time you are intimate. Let him know how much you enjoy all the intimate things you do together that doesn’t involve vaginal sex. List those things out and tell him about each one in detail. Encourage him to do more of these but also at the same time emphasize that you do not expect him to perform every time. If it happens, that’s great. If it doesn’t, no biggie.
