Ladies, would you like to help your man cure his premature ejaculation so you both can have a more fulfilling and enjoyable sex life? It is quite simple to do but first you must understand what might be going on inside your man’s head.
Many men are quite embarrassed about premature ejaculation. If they have this problem, it makes them feel like less of a man. Moreover, many men are scared that their woman will leave them if they don’t perform well enough in bed. You can alleviate much of this fear in the way you approach the subject. Let your man know it is nothing to be embarrassed about because it is something that affects about 30-70% of all men, depending on how you define it. Let him know that you have no intention of leaving him and that you’re in the relationship for the long haul. Let him know you can be patient while both you work this out together. It would be a really good time to tell him how very special he is and how much you love him.
Many men think that premature ejaculation is a “male problem” and that they shouldn’t bother you with it. Let your man know that you think of it more as a “couples problem” than a “male problem.”Let him know that he does not have to deal with this alone and that you would prefer that he include you in the process – that you would actually feel better if he did.
Men are problem solvers by nature. They like to fix problems rather than discuss them ad nauseum. You should mindful of this when you discuss the problem. Almost immediately after you initiate the discussion, let him know that you have done some research and you have a simple solution that you think will work. In other words, let him know there is a relatively easy way to fix the problem. Also, try to keep the discussion to a reasonable length of time, unless he himself wants to extend it. Then, by all means, listen to what he has to say and take it to heart. Just talking about the problem actually helps the problem sometimes – but let him take the lead on how long to extend the discussion.
One main factor in premature ejaculation is performance anxiety. You can take some of that pressure off your man by letting him know that you don’t need him to consummate the act every time you guys get frisky with one another. In other words, he don’t have to have penetrative vaginal sex every single time. Let him know how much you enjoy other intimate activities like back rubs, foot messages, showers together, and oral sex. If he doesn’t feel like he HAS to perform every time, his performance may get better.
Women are often the ones who take charge of health care issues in families. Let your man know that you consider this a health care issue. Tell him you don’t want him to do anything that would injure his penis, hurt, or make him feel bad. Tell him why you don’t like many of the traditional remedies to premature ejaculation. For example, you may not like penis desensitizers because he can’t enjoy sex as much if his penis is numb. Maybe you don’t like the start and stop method or the squeeze method because it makes sex less enjoyable for both of you. Tell him you would prefer a totally natural method that would allow you to have normal sex, well GREAT sex, with a normal rhythm.
What you need to do first is get a really good guide on how to last longer in bed and study up so you’ll have a well-researched solution in hand when you broach the subject.
