If you haven’t taken a long hard look at your genitals please do. What positions feel most comfortable to you as you get aroused? For women, do you like pressure on your clitoris while lying on your stomach, sitting up with pressure from below, sideways, while you are on your back?…you need to figure that out women.Do you enjoy short gentle touches, long strokes? What feels best, fingers, a vibrator, lubricant or not? Can you easily be aroused by many different positions? Are your breasts extra sensitive? How many erogenous zones can you count?
If you are a guy, what are your erogenous zones beyond the tip of your penis? Are your ears sensitive, your neck, the skin on your inner thigh, your buttocks. Would just French kissing set you off for starters? Play some mental games with yourself. Close your eyes and dream for a moment.
Imagine that someone you would love to have sex with is lightly touching you in your most erogenous zone; next kissing you there, blowing gently on that area after getting it wet. Imagine having something cold like an ice cube gently rubbed over that area, or a warm wet towel. How about aromatic oils? Does that do it for you? Have you ever started thinking about sex in the shower, or tub? Ladies? Men? Certain music make you feel sexy?
Some of you are aroused by watching people working out, or playing some sport. The tightness of muscles, the gleam of perspiration on a suntanned body can set some off into mind pictures. So what is it that you like now? Is it different from some time ago? Do you find that you really enjoy pleasuring your mate? Are you a considerate lover? In order to bring yourself to orgasm you need to “go to the movies in your mind.” Set the stage. Where are you, what do you smell, who are you with, what are you each wearing, and what body part is most arousing to you?
As you begin to find and to admit to what really turns you on, you are closer to multiple orgasmic sex.
Yes, women generally have an greater ability to orgasm multiple times, however, men can also learn to enjoy several orgasms within a short period of time. And by the way, age does not have to play a role in this. First of all, both men and women need to be physically healthy. Check with your doctor if you have questions. One needs good circulation, strength, and stamina coupled with imagination and a willingness to make it happen. Be sure that you are well rested, perhaps take a B vitamin complex or something like powdered electrolytes before hand, and don’t have too much to drink, though a little libation is often helpful to relax.
Here are some things to consider to help you reach multiple orgasms:
1. Set the stage physically, mentally and emotionally.
2. Wear clothing that makes you feel sexy. Tell your partner what clothing he/she wears that most arouses you.
3. Wear perfume or cologne that excites the senses.
4. Eat sexy foods in small quantities such as oysters, clams, caviar, fresh fruits, veggies that you can suck and lightly bite. Different textures and tastes are lovely.
5. Have something to drink –a sparkling wine, champagne, a beer, passion tea…not coffee.
6. Make the temperature of the room comfortable–not warm; cool is better, but not cold.
7. Bring toys into the bedroom- vibrators, rings, ice, yogart, cream, caramel, chocolate, whipped cream. Penis rings with vibrators and other feel good toys for both are available. See what interests each of you.
8. Lubricant: there are many types on the market now – some with flavors, some that add heat
9. Music
10. Candles or aromatherapy of other kinds
11. Fireplace
12. Hot Tub
13. Start slowly, gently or, play a little rough if you enjoy that –always be sure whatever is going on is okay for both of you
14. Let your animal instincts get the best of you and go with your urges. Men often like to claim their partner, or to dominate, and some women and men feel great when they can take turns at controlling the situation. Do what works for you.
15. Stimulate the area just above the woman’s pubic bone – gentle shaking with pressure then move inward as she indicates readiness
16. Stimulate the G-spot by inserting a middle finger palm side up and bend the finger within to touch that crazy G. Watch the motion of her body- she will tell you what works best
17. As you are doing this – you too will find a point of arousal. The sounds of pleasing her should also make you feel very good. Imagine what you are causing. Women do something wonderful for your man. What does he most enjoy? Take your time with him, watch his expression, talk to him. Share in the enjoyment of pleasing one another.
18. Touch your skin to hers –feel her breasts up against you —feel her erect nipples, notice your own erection, realize that you are causing this pleasure. When you let yourself go—you will not be able to stop the urge to penetrate her. But take your time guys- prolong it. The sexual tension will build and you will feel an urge to copulate like never before.
19. Not always, but sometimes you will be able to time your orgasm with your mate. When that happens it is incredibly pleasing for both partners. Following your first orgasm men need to rest generally, however, women can go on with several more orgasms if you gently restimulate, and I do mean gently restimulate her most erogenous zones. Keep some pressure on her pubic bone and gently rock from side to side, a type of out g-spot stimulation. She may feel good turning over onto her stomach and lying on a vibrator, or just your leg, she will tell you what will work for her. Manual stimulation, oral, whatever.
Talking during sex can also work because all of your senses are heighten. Say different things and see what turns her on, better yet, ask her if she enjoys hearing certain things. You can also bring in some sex toys at this point such as a vibrator and let her help guide you.
20. After she reaches climax again -rest a bit together and then get out of bed for a while to change the pace of things- get something to drink- perhaps have some cold fruit, put your robes on and just sit together in another room. Talk about what just happened and let your body react. Look at each other – the after-sex glow and feel of one another can send ripples of lust. When you feel rested enough – go for a different position, different mood, making love or just having sex is all up to what will work for you. Let her stimulate you in new ways and go with it – role play if you need it, put a sexy movie on, do whatever it takes to be aroused again.
21. Sometimes taking a shower after sex with your mate is incredibly stimulating – there is something special about wet bodies.
22. Massage is also a good way to arouse sexual feelings. Seeing a beautiful bottom adorned by a thong bending over to pick up an article of clothing can send some guys craving more!
23. Let your mate know how good they felt and all of the positive aspects of being together. Talk about what you are going to do to one another –kiss new body parts, take your time, or not – do it differently.
24. Pretending that you are with someone else for some people also can work – whatever you choose make sure both of you feel good about it. Going to the movies in your mind during sex can help you achieve orgasm.
25. The pulsating waves of the first orgasm can literally send you quickly into another…remember that sensation, allow it. Just enjoy each touch, each breath, each kiss, each movement…
Talk about what works for you during lovemaking. Let your partner know when he or she does something that thrills you. Remember variety is truly the spice of life. Having a healthy sex life is an important part of living a healthy life. Don’t be discouraged if you can’t achieve multiple orgasms on your first attempt. It also helps if you just play rather than work at it. Enjoying even one orgasm is a gift of nature—savor those moments, it can bring you much closer together. Memories of a past orgasm must mean that it was so wonderful you’d like to repeat it, so try to remember how the stage was set that time. Get creative and enjoy lovemaking.
Wishing you many orgasmic moments with the one you love!
Janet Angel is a sought-after wellness expert with advanced degrees in nutritional biochemistry and psychology. She believes that everyone needs to educate themselves on the wellness opportunities available around the world. Dr. Angel has counseled many prominent citizens across the United States and has participated in several international research programs surrounding health. She has been a guest on many radio programs, is a public speaker, author and seminar leader. Dr. Angel believes that the body has the innate ability to heal itself in most circumstances, given the right environment, the right elements and the opportunity. For further information on her drive to help others reach their fullest potential, please go to http://www.totallywell.com/.
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