Sexaholics are people who are addicted to sex. A Sexaholic is a person who has successfully detached the concept of morality from the act of sex in order to facilitate the constant need and engagement in sexual activity to achieve gratification. Hedonists would tell you that morality should have nothing to do with sex anyway but I am of the opinion that such an attitude is dangerous and unhealthy. Sexual addiction is similar to food or alcohol addiction in the sense that too much stimulation and pleasure makes the individual lose all sense of boundaries and control.
But Sexaholics have also an erotic connotation. A person who is that liberated is strangely sexy. To have sex with a Sexaholic may be one of the most erotic experiences in a person’s life. This perception is true for both men and women. A lot of men would fantasize about sleeping with a highly “sexual” woman that would fulfill all their wants and desires and a lot of women would dream about getting it on with a man who is hungry and insatiable. But there is a boundary. Once the individual in question loses control of their own needs and desires, they become victims and that is the problem. This is when it stops becoming sexy and becomes a real health problem.
A lot of Sexaholics need to stop having sex completely because even one episode can give them a relapse and push them off the wagon. This is what Sexaholics have in common with alcoholics. Except in the case of sex addiction, there is no foreign substance that is causing the problems, but their own bodies, minds and physical chemistry. Sex is a beautiful thing and should be enjoyed by responsible adults in moderation. I am of the opinion that sex addiction is a mental health problem and needs to be addressed in such a way.
Sexual liberation is great and living your life and having fun are all worthy and wonderful ideas but it is equally important that we take care of ourselves and don’t end up hurting others. There is a thin line between being Adonis or Aphrodite in bed (which we all want to be) and having a real problem that needs to be addressed. So go ahead, get between the sheets and have fun with your partners. Play adult games and be experimental but also be safe and healthy.
