One common misconception that seems to come up whenever the topic of sex is mentioned is that the female ejaculation orgasm is a modern ‘invention’ that wasn’t even conceivable in earlier, darker times. Amazingly some people still hold onto the notion that ancient times thought that sex was evil and avoided it. In fact compared to certain periods in history, our time is not very liberal at all! The Indians have known about and celebrated female ejaculation since the ancient times and even in the most liberal parts of America the squirting orgasm had made its way into the popular imagination as far back as the 1920′s.
Unfortunately many writers (Including the highly influential Masters and Johnson) rubbished claims being made by scientists that women were capable of ejaculating. Even the influential Dr. Grafenberg (The doctor who the G-spot is named after) couldn’t change their mind and a lot of the early research was ignored. Despite its long history, it was not until 1998 that it became widely accepted in scientific literature.
How to Achieve a Female Ejaculation Orgasm
In my experience all women are capable of having one of these orgasms. The difference is in the amount of preparation needed. The Kegel exercise is one of the most important factors in helping women who have never experienced one of these orgasms be able to ejaculate. To perform a kegel exercise she will need to squeeze her vagina closed as if she is trying to stop urinating. Hold this for 8-10 seconds, then push out. This will strengthen the muscles that she needs.
One problem that many couples have is that the ejaculation can feel like see is about to urinate. As soon as she starts to think this, her state will break and she will cease to enjoy herself: making it unlikely that she will have a squirting orgasm. Therefore it is very important for the guy to explain the process to her beforehand. She needs to know that it is okay to relax and let it happen. Once she is used to the feeling, it will become easier for her to squirt.
The Technique
Women are capable of having these orgasms from both G-spot and clitoris stimulation. The G-spot is the more reliable method, so that is the one that I will be discussing in this article. Once you have mastered the G-spot ejaculation orgasm, the clitoris orgasm is easy to perform.
Her emotional state is very important. She wants to be relaxed and turned-on, so a romantic atmosphere, with lots of foreplay will increase the chances of her orgasming significantly. Insert your middle and ring fingers, using your pinkie and index finger as a support. At this point her vagina should feel engorged, so you should use a lot of lubrication, so that you don’t accidentally cut her with your fingernails. You are looking for an area of flesh on the roof of her vagina that feels slightly rougher than the surrounding areas. This is the G-spot.
At first just gently stroke the G-spot with your fingers. As she gets more turned-on add a motion similar to the one that you would use to beckon someone towards you. At first your strokes need to be slow and continuous, increasing in speed as she gets more excited. Once you begin to hear wet, squealching noises you should add in some muscular flexes of your bicep to make it a stronger motion.
If you framed everything correctly, she should know that the wet feeling is her orgasm, not urine. At this point, she needs to relax and push outwards. She should feel an amazing rush of excitement as she ejaculates a clear liquid.
Sometimes women hold back or get too excited and the orgasm happens at a different time to the ejaculation. This is fine, both should make her feel good and some girls prefer to have them separately. Whichever she has it will be a great experience for both you and her.
Harlan Mulroy is a sex expert. For all the latest information about improving your sex life and female orgasms, visit http://www.completeorgasmguide.com
