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A straight-talking women’s guide to tending to a partner’s unrequited libido and reigniting the sexual sparks in a long-term relationship. Many couples are all too familiar with the classic bedroom balancing act-manag… More >>
Lube Jobs: A Woman’s Guide to Great Maintenance Sex
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This book is absolutely insulting. It lies to women by telling them that women have less sex drive than men, (please ladies, take a university class on human sexuality and educate yourselves) and suggests to no-class women that they should simply put-out. This book completely degrades the sexual act from a equal reciprical activity and denigrates it to whoring off your body simply because her male partner cant respect her and her body. Sex IS NOT having a man masterbate using your body. Men who just luuuurve this book – grow up. No wonder this book is on the “bargain book” list. The picture of a 1950s women is appropriate.
Rating: 1 / 5
Ok, this might be over your head, but you know how cars need maintenance? No? Because men are like cars; they need maintenance. Ok … aim lower … well, you know your hair? How the roots start to show between full dye jobs so you go in to get it touched up? It’s like that, but more often. We should have just named the book Dye Jobs.
It’s like this: you’re driving the kids home from the pool and they’re crabbing out because they’re hungry AGAIN and you’re the mom so you have to feed them but you’re tired so you just zip through a McDonald’s drive-thru and then they’re happy and quiet. It’s like that. Maybe faster.
Don’t you want to be cool? You could be the “cool mom” and when all the other guys are complaining about their ball and chains, we’ll be all “yeah well mine let’s me put it in her everyday and other stuff.”
Ok, women are multi-taskers right? Isn’t that what you do, what your brain is designed for? Well why can’t you give us some while you make the grocery list??
Sex is LOVE. Do you want us to leave you, you withholding harpie? Don’t think we can’t! Don’t think we can’t find somebody more willing!
I didn’t mean that.
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I hate this book. They say in the preface that they want to “redeem” maintenance sex and I think they failed completely. They fail to make the big-picture, overall idea of maintenance sex sound like anything other than obnoxious. They fail spectacularly when it comes to specific suggestions, too -so much so that when they describe a particular activity that I happen to like in an effort to encourage the uninitiated to try it, they manage to make it sound utterly repulsive to me. If you want something more satisfying than one person just servicing the other, try Passionista and Sex Detox by Ian Kerner.
Rating: 1 / 5
I knew this book would be interesting the moment I saw it. I also knew I would ultimately have problems with it. I am a woman, if you find that colors my review. And yes, I did find many parts of the book sexist, if you were wondering. But, my main problem with the book was not so much the concept of the book but that I felt the book did not really do what it set out to do. There is a quick, inadequate chapter in the front of the book in which the authors run through the idea of maintenance sex. There’s really no deep explanation of how maintenance sex is the solution to unbalanced sex drives, except that maybe your man will feel loved and appreciated afterward. The authors are basically suggesting when he wants to have sex more than you, you should have sex with him regardless of your desire, because he will feel so loved afterward, and your relationship can bounce back on track.
Unfortunately, this isn’t realistic. If the woman is forced to equate sex with a chore, intercourse is not going to be a bonding, relationship-repairing experience unless both people can be receptive. It has been mentioned that these “lube job” techniques would make a man the happiest man alive; since they are designed specifically for male pleasure, that would make sense. But none of these “lube jobs” are really any different from a normal sexual encounter except in the fact that any consideration of female sexual needs are discarded, since it would be assumed that the female isn’t sexually receptive, even if she’s having sex.
I don’t think I could really recommend this book for anyone having these types of intimacy issues. The book is too superficial and oversimplified for a couple with genuine problems having their individual needs met. This book would probably be best enjoyed between a couple who has a healthy sexual and emotional relationship and gets a good thrill out of light, Cosmo-style bubblegum sex books and can take this with a grain of salt (especially the stuff about preventing cheating, which I do not agree with at all and find downright sinister).
Rating: 3 / 5
If a woman will use the information in this book she will have a very happy husband!!
Rating: 5 / 5
Fun and humorous presentation of an important subject. The writer is sensitive and on target in a presentation of a topic that could have been too “clinical” or “distasteful” if not done carefully. Every happy and unhappy couple should buy a copy!
Rating: 4 / 5