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A sensational bestseller in England, here is the revealing diary of a young woman honest enough to put all of her sexual thoughts and erotic emotions in print.
Who says men think about sex more th… More >>
Product Description
A sensational bestseller in England, here is the revealing diary of a young woman honest enough to put all of her sexual thoughts and erotic emotions in print.
Who says men think about sex more th… More >>
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Abby Lee is obviously a woman who is sex obsessed, and sexually driven like a man. Most women will not relate to her stories because, low and behold, women are women, and most of use do not think like a man about sex, nor enjoy sex without emotional connection. Buy into the “free for all” attitude to sex under the notion of “sexual liberation” and most women will find they end up used and tossed out. The more they try to think “it’s ok, I’m Liberated”, the more they will feel angry, used and bitter. Women release different hormones to men during sex which make it much harder to keep things casual. In Abby Lee’s case she is obviously able to think like a man and ultimately, have sex like a man. Is this book “liberating” or “empowering”??….. NO. Most women, like me, will in some small ways, resent this book, because we don’t like, and don’t relate to the notion that women can enjoy sex without emotional connection. We set our bar much higher than a shag with some random at a bar or being a virtual call girl (without the pay). In fact, Abby Lee’s casual sex experiences sound like something I might have done when I was 18 or 19 (before I learnt how to put myself first). I ended up feeling used and hurt by casual sex with men who were unwilling to invest in a relationship. But Abby Lee clearly wants MORE casual sex opportunites (which is why she feels frustrated by the view that women need an emotional connection to enjoy sex), while most of us cringe away from sleazy men looking for a one-night stand. Abby Lee works tirelessly to “liberate” society by promoting casual sex. She harps on and on, “Say yes to safe sex”. But there is no such thing as “safe sex”, many infections are present in the skin not covered by a condom and condoms do not prevent the spread of many of the most common and dangerous STD’s. If that is not bad enough, women should also know that it is women who are most at risk of contracting an STD — women are four times more likely to get gonnorhea and HIV through unprotected heterosexual sex than men are. It is interesting to hear such a candid recount of Abby’s life, good on her for being so open and honest. But, if women are well informed, then (most) of them will cringe away from Abby Lee’s book, and they certainly would not take it as gospel. Most women will find they do a lot better and are happier and healthier to live by a very different code of conduct than Abby Lee’s i.e. waiting at least a month before having sex (otherwise you give away all your bargaining power too soon), and having healthy sexual boundaries will generally lead to happy and healthy lasting relationships which will benefit women a lot more than Abby Lee’s “free for all” attitude to sex.
Rating: 3 / 5
While the title would lead you to believe that all this woman does is sleep with various partners, nothing could be further from the truth. In fact, her moral values actually keep her from sleeping with a great number of men for any number of reasons. This tends to be paradoxical, as she will sleep more willingly with strangers than with established men friends who she knows and likes.
The meaning behind her writing is that she is a nymphomaniac and either doesn’t realize it, or can’t come to grips with that fact. Anyone who finds it necessary to “fiddle” more than once a day definitely has a psychological problem and should address the issue through counseling rather than by finding more and better ways to get it on with different men.
In many ways, the book is sad. She has issues and doesn’t deal with them well. I am in favor of liberated women, but this isn’t really about that, despite her protests to the contrary. It is a good read, if for no other reason than to be able to see what a person in trouble looks like.
Rating: 3 / 5
I can’t say I would recommend this book to anyone I know. And that’s not a good thing, obviously. And it has nothing to do with the people I know not being sex-crazed, but just because to me the book itself seemed more of a “tips” book, in a way, and in another way, it was emotionally disassociated from reality. People merely seemed objectified and used. And for someone who feels so much — that wasn’t strong enough.
I thought about whom I would recommend this book to — if I would know anyone — perhaps a frisky virgin, who might learn a thing or two. But for everyone else, we’ve already created our own likes and dislikes, views about sex, sexuality in people and within ourselves; and, perhaps we even learned our self-worth more, as adults, and the impressions we leave on others in response to our actions.
Rating: 2 / 5
I read this a good while ago. It was fine, but too long and too much ultimately. I’m sure it was a much better blog.
Rating: 1 / 5
I loved this book and if you google her name it will take you to her blog page.
Rating: 5 / 5