The Manual: A True Bad Boy Explains How Men Think, Date, and Mate–and What Women Can Do to Come Out on Top

If I could give this book less than one star I would!

My Letter to Steve:

Hi Steve, I love men, I know lots of you are lost and confused out there and that you are trying to tell sell books. But I have to say that I think you are a big sell out. You must hear this alot from “Real” women, and especially from feminist women, so I am sure this is not news to you. But I have to say you are missing the mark and perpetuating a big lie through the logical fallacies that most pop culture followers cannot sort out. In other words, you are taking advantage of people’s ignorance and insecurities, especially women’s, which makes you a woman user and hater, not a woman lover as you so proclaim. I hate to be harsh, but I am calling you on this one!

I just read “The Manual” and found it astoundingly shallow and deceptive if not down right manipulative. I must say Steve, that it is about as insightful as renting Debbie Does Dallas XXX, or any other Girl-on-Girl, Barely Legal porn movie. I think your best advice was probably: “Dye it pink, that will make him “think”!!!”

C’mon Steve, in a world that is now increasingly being dubbed as “pornified” (term coined by Pamela Paul, http://www.pamelapaul.com ) ALL I CAN SAY IS YOU OWE EVERY WOMEN WHO READS YOUR HORSESH** A BIG APOLOGY. I’d love one BTW, if you are man enough to respond to me at all. You will probably just write me off as “overly emotional or “needy” like a million others who are no longer allowed to be true woman, and must not recognize their own emotions so they can be servants of men’s fantasies…

What you don’t know about women Steve, is ALOT. You have had many women’s bodies, but its very obvous from your writing, that you have never had one woman’s heart or mind.

There is a love and union and depth you cannot achieve through more experiences, but only through true love which does not come from dressing up like a porn star to throw tricks on Halloween or any other time of the year!

Your book is anti-relationships, anti-intimacy, and sadly anti-love. I am so sad for you and all of us being crushed by this message that preaches the illusion of love over the real thing, cause real love does not look like pornography.

AND BTW, I LOVE NICE GUYS. I dated a “bad boy” who assaulted me a long time ago. I learned that he was a big player, a liar, and a pornography addict who used local prostitutes and was a suspect in the murder of a child that is still unsolvd in Colorado http://www.alie.org youcan see her online. He was a narcissistic player who used many, many women just like you portray that what it means to be a man is some shallow jerk who can only see a woman if she’s wearing a stereotypical porno uniform…do you know what you are reducing love and women too?

And telling women that we want some kind of “bad boy” stereotype is the biggest BS load I’ve heard all week, and I’ve heard some! Its basically praising abusers. Do you know what the stats are for Domestic Violence today (see: http://www.endabuse.org/resources/facts/ )? And yet, you are practically shoving it down our throats, like if we want a nice guy we should check our pulse – sheesh!

I think you should check your own pulse Steve, do you have a heart?

Your book is advice for the lonely, for the jaded, for players….its how to play a game, not how to find love or a soulmate or even someone who would take care of you beyond one night of pink dye and perfect bikini lines. I hope you know the difference….

You are advising women that all they want is some bad a**, who will only want them when they look like a porn star – what great advice. No woman really wants that. Neither does any man…even if they are hard up. Sure it might be a fun fantasy, and you might get off, but Steve, in the end its a lonely road for both genders, filled with empty soulless orgasms, and bodies that never connect at the heart.

Its a travesty that you would be considered an expert in any area of matters or affairs of the heart, and that we are living in a time that is so soul-less that love is merely for sale to the highest bidder.

The are saying that the trafficking epidemic we are now seeing is going to be one of the human rights issues of or time, and researchers and scholars in this area (are you a scholar, I think not) are saying that this is now one of the most lucrative industries of our time.

I have been told that I was beautiful girl my whole life, and I can wear lingerie like your fantasies will never know, but I DO NOT WANT TO BE A PORN STAR STEVE…and I believe in true love, between two people who love each other. In fact, I don’t think you should ever have sex unless you are in love, and if you fall in love every two minutes, then you are a shallow pool my friend. I dare you to respond to me or at least to read this info and do this research and learn what horrors you are perpetuating to make a buck. Now who’s the whore? Seriously, your stuff sucks….you are a bad a** sellout. You sell out very well, but where’s the honor in that, where’s the heart, where’s the soul, where’s the love?

I DON’T WANT A BAD BOY OR A PLAYER.

Thanks for listening, and sorry for being a bit harsh, but at this point lies and secrets hold no intrigue for me. Hope you get that someday,

Yours Truly, Angel (sometimes a contradiction in terms)

RESEARCH FOR YOU:

https://www.againstpornography.org/

http://www.hustlingtheleft.com/

Its all Hardcore XXX Now

http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=5003155114018800220&q=gail+dines

A Man Speaks Against Pornography

http://www.southendpress.org/2007/items/87767

“Porn is used to get men in the mood to kill – military Connection.”

“Pornography and the death of empathy : men are being trained to ignore the expierences and feelings of women. Women in pornography are systematically subjected to cruelty and humiliation. This is a death of empathy. This plays out in public contexts all the time. its a serious problem in this culture. In a predatory corporate capitolist system, we have to constantly struggle to reconnect as human beings.”

LISTEN TO THIS>>> JUST CLICK THE LINK AND LISTEN AND LEARN….

Paraphrasing from Robert Jensen: Listen/CLICK here to Robert Jensen’s discussion of the reach and impact of pornography in US society as a guest on WORT-FM’s “A Public Affair” program on March 9, 2007, hosted by Diane Farsetta and produced by WORT-FM. (WORT-FM retains all ownership and rights to the program, so please contact them if you’d like to link to or distribute this program.)

A Man Speaks Against Pornography

http://www.southendpress.org/2007/items/87767

“Porn is used to get men in the mood to kill – military Connection.”

“Pornography and the death of empathy : men are being trained to ignore the expierences and feelings of women. Women in pornography are systematically subjected to cruelty and humiliation. This is a death of empathy. This plays out in public contexts all the time. its a serious problem in this culture. In a predatory corporate capitolist system, we have to constantly struggle to reconnect as human beings.”

http://www.amazon.fr/Make-Love-Like-Porn-Star/dp/0060539097

How to Make Love Like a Porn Star: A Cautionary Tale (Reli?)

Jenna Jameson (Auteur), Neil Strauss (Auteur)

“There comes a moment in every life when a choice must be made between right and wrong, between good and evil, between light and darkness…”

From Publishers Weekly:

With its wit (the book is dedicated to Onan), its victim narrative (multiple sexual assaults), its celebrity dish (Howard Stern is actually well endowed), and its frank, one-fisted prose style (“After three hours of sweaty, psychotic sex, she handed me a huge black strap-on”), the queen of porn’s autobiography is destined to become a lowbrow classic. Jameson’s career began at 16, when she fell for Jack, a tattoo artist. At a party, Jack’s neo-love uncle raped Jameson. Unable to face her father, a Las Vegas cop, she moved in with Jack. Within a year, she went from high school cheerleader to stripper to nude model to porn actress, with a stop along the way to become a crack addict. Jameson’s life wasn’t so much a downward spiral as a freefall into darkness.

But, as the porn world would have it, the harder she fell, the more everyone wanted her, and she quickly became a top nude model and porn star, and the country’s highest-paid feature dancer, all while leaving a path of carnage worthy of several rock bands. Beneath Jameson’s monstrous diva exterior, however, was a girl who just wanted to become a loving mother and wife. After many failures, she finally succeeded, and her X-rated book ends on an uplifting family-values note. Jameson’s life was a mess, and with its multiple formats (interview transcripts, movie scripts, advice sidebars, diary entries, cartoon strips), so is this book. But it’s a remarkably appealing and honest mess, and should earn Jameson some of the mainstream acceptance she so clearly desires.

Worldwide tragedy: U.S. not immune to sexual slavery

http://findarticles.com/p/articles/mi_qa3820/is_200007/ai_n8902819

Social Measure of Gender Inequality – Trafficking

Prostitution still a problem for women worldwide – a measure of gender inequality

http://media.www.ramcigar.com/media/storage/paper366/news/2004/04/08/News/Prostitution.Still.A.Problem.For.Women.Worldwide-654626.shtml

Child Prostitution Crisis

http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/uk/1462628.stm

The Graphic – Child prostitution crisis surges worldwide

http://graphic.pepperdine.edu/perspectives/2003/2003-10-23-prostitution.htm

Thailand’s Child Slaves

http://www.thaiembdc.org/socials/childprs.htm

Women’s issues are still in crisis as well around the globe. In many nations around the globe women cannot take care of themselves and are given no recourse to do so. They cannot read or write, do not know their rights, have no voice, cannot vote, cannot hold property, run a business, or establish financial or land holdings. In many places women still have no rights, and can be legally raped and murdered. In some places in the world if a woman turns a man’s marriage proposal down she can have acid thrown into her face marring it forever. In some countries in Africa and Asia they still practice clitoral mutilation:

http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/health/medical_notes/241221.stm

Prostitution, the oldest profession, sees 1 in 3 women in Africa contract HIV/AIDS while working to feed their starving children and in Russia the incidence is also very high. These women are selling what should never be bought or sold and no man of honor would participate in letting this situation continue, much less suppress the voices of women with the courage of conviction to speak out against these crimes against humanity and against women the world over.

http://www.bbc.co.uk/dna/actionnetwork/A24078071

http://www.xxxchurch.com

Rating: 1 / 5

What a great book! Everybody should read this book (even men and married people)You must read the whole book to understand the meaning of being a proactive and confident woman!! I followed Steve’s suggestions and ended up on stage at the Hard Rock Casino kissing a very hot celebrity with chocolate sauce on our lips!! A great Christmas gift for all of your friends!!! Andrea in St. Petersburg
Rating: 5 / 5