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Effective techniques for fashioning pleasurable and satisfying sex lives. Here, Shelley Green and Douglas Flemons gather a wonderful array of approaches to sex therapy, each presented by a well-known… More >>
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One of my interests in the area of sexuality is the interaction of sexuality and spirituality, so I was somewhat disappointed that there was not mention of that in the book. In my opinion, the messages that many people receive from their faith community often form the basis for their self-defeating ideas about sexuality. However, I found the chapter on Narrative therapy most helpful because it provided some substance to my argument. Doan explained that “narrative work, informed by social constructionist notions, seeks to liberate clients’ voices from the oppression of cultural mythologies and discourses” (p. 155-156). In addition, I believe that the conversation on pages 165-169 further highlights the impact of what I refer to as “religiously defined sexuality.”
Of all the chapters in the book, I was able to connect to this chapter most because I consider myself to be a Narrative Therapist. It offered new insights for me into how to work with clients who present with complaints about their attitudes about sex. Though the chapter did not go into great details about the influence of spirituality on sexuality, I was able to apply the core ideas in my personal project for the class which centered on the influence of spirituality on individual’s ideas about sexuality. With that said, I feel that the next edition of the book would greatly benefit from an article that deals specifically with the issues of spirituality and sexuality. As a therapist who belongs to the Christian community, I am often left feeling as if I am being pulled between two worlds–the world of therapy and the world of Christianity. Quite often it seems that the suggestions made by therapists are not in sync with fundamental Christian doctrine or practices, and the suggestions made by Christian writers and leaders are often not in harmony with systemic assumptions. While this tug-of-war can be exhausting, it does provide me with some understanding of what clients may be experiencing.
Again, I thank you for your contribution to the field and for your influence on my educational experience as I have been fortunate to study under two of your best and brightest students. I am anxiously awaiting the release of the next edition.
Sincerely,
Tekulve Martial-Vann
Rating: 4 / 5
The collection of brief sex therapy models provides a vast array of techniques that may be employed with heterosexual couples, homosexual couples, and singles of either gender. The models include narrative therapy, catalytic therapy, multi-contextual therapy, relational approach, and techniques rooted in MRI and solution focused based therapy. These models employ a variety of techniques and in some cases crossover in ways that would be described as hybrid models. At the same time, all of the models presented in this work value similar approaches to the conceptualization of the therapeutic process.
The strongest technique that crossed all of the models presented was that of deep respect and the honoring of the client’s individual and couple worldviews. The various therapists worked with their clients from an open and collaborative position. It seemed that most of the work exemplified in the case studies reflected a therapeutic stance from a position of second order cybernetics. In some cases, the therapists functioned from a both/and position in which they moved from first to second order cybernetic positions and back as the situation required. The fluidity of movement from these two positions was impressive and invoked a great deal of thought in how I may develop ways to utilize both positions effectively with clients.
A second major commonality across modalities was the respectful shelving of the DSM-IV and the medical model of sex therapy. While the therapists highlighted in this work recognized the impacts that physical health and disease may have on sexual functioning, they did not allow the medical model and the approaches to sex therapy rooted within to organize their treatment methods. Consistently, these therapists both checked with their clients about their physical health and if they had been recently examined with regard to their problems, or required their clients to obtain an examination in relation to their identified problem prior to continuing psychotherapy. It is refreshing to observe clinicians operating from a both/and position in which the validity of physical impairment may exist and at the same time, not allowing physical symptoms whose cause cannot be determined by a physician to organize how they approach therapy.
In addition to continuity of conceptualization in the approach of these clinicians, a careful understanding and a willingness to understand clients and educate regarding the newest pop pathological disorder of sexual addiction was refreshing. One of the contributors, Tracy Todd, labeled this trendy diagnosis the “premature ejaculation of sexual addiction diagnosis. Todd spent a great deal of space addressing the numerous online self assessment instruments that have become widely available to internet surfers who are attempting to understand their own behavior or label the behavior of someone else. Yet, as she pointed out, these instruments are not valid assessments and more importantly, the absence of any DSM criteria for this now popular diagnosis. As systemic theorists, we have come to understand that everything makes sense in context. These various therapists make clear that through the teasing apart of the contextual realities of each case, an understanding of behavior becomes clear. In the cases representing sexual addiction, the context and its deconstruction revealed that the behavior label as sexual addiction was revealed when the clients were asked what they were hoping to gain from the behavior. Rather than a compulsive need for some form of gratification, there were other reasons related to maintaining the existing relationship, avoiding external relationships that may exacerbate emotional pain, and research to teach themselves betters ways to please their partners.
As a reader and clinician, the efforts of the writers to expose how easily the medical models may seduce one and past practices of sex therapy rooted in that model were appreciated. Moreover, the emphasis and examples on how the interactions between partners seem to be more influential in how couples may or may not relate sexually, than the physical dysfunction that may presented. In the several cases provided, the presenting problems that were held prisoner by the medial model of sex therapy gained the freedom to change as the interactions between partners and those around them were altered.
In much of the writings, the influence of Milton Erickson, Don D. Jackson, John Weakland, Gregory Bateson, Jay Haley, and Paul Watzlawick were quite strong. The post modern and social constructionist roots of these “Fathers of Systemic Thinking” were evident in all of the models. In addition, the use of humor and irreverence seems to be a useful method to aid in creating space to talk about this sometimes-difficult subject. I noticed the influence of Erickson, Bateson, and Jackson in some of the humor used and found myself laughing and recognizing some of the comments from their case examples.
While there was much information across models of their effectiveness as sex therapy interventions, the reflection by some of the writers about their failures and difficulties throughout the history of their practice was a strong connection for this reader. This reflection of failures and difficulties experienced by these clinicians, normalizes for practitioners that nothing is 100% and creates room for mistakes, errors, and full-blown blunders from which to learn as well as normalize the sometimes trial and error nature of therapy.
The content and writing style of the authors easily maintained this reader’s attention throughout the various models and approaches until reaching the last chapter, John Weakland at Work. While I appreciate and value the incredible knowledge that Weakland has given to the field of marriage and family therapy, this particular transcript lost me as a reader. Becoming lost was not about the content and did seem to be a matter of style. I found this particular chapter to be long and boring. The beginning of this chapter was strong, held the readers attention, and then suddenly lost it. Feeling lost and irritated, the continued reading of this chapter became too monotonous and rather than continue plowing through it, the after word, suddenly became irresistible.
The editors have succeeded in providing an excellent resource that exhibits the creativity and wisdom of some of the best brief therapists in the field. The book invites a variety of conversations concerning the approaches to sex therapy. These conversations contrast with the longer processes; traditional approaches pioneered by Masters and Johnson, and others.
As a new clinician entering the field, I anticipate using some of these models and have already begun conceptualizing how some of these may be combined as a means to increased effectiveness. In addition to my own use of these models, I would strongly recommend this handbook to any clinician working in the field of marriage and family therapy, and especially to those working with sexual issues.
In spite of the attention-losing final chapter, this book rates 5 stars!
Rating: 5 / 5
This book is a great book for everyone who wants to learn about sex therapy!
Rating: 5 / 5
Shelley is my Professor and a wonderful person aswell. I have read most of the book and I love it. This book will stay in my collection since it has very good tips to use on clients. I hope I have Shelley again as a teacher before I graduate!
Rating: 5 / 5
Dr. Shelley Green and Dr. Douglas Flemons,
I am a student in the Marriage and Family Therapy program at Valdosta State University in Valdosta, Georgia. One of our professors, Martha Laughlin, used your book for one of our classes: Couples and Sex. I must say that for an overall read, being a student, it was very educational and helpful to me in my journey towards being a marriage and family therapist. The use of case illustrations, while intertwining the disciplines of Batesonian systemic thinking, helped me to more clearly understand how to apply these principals that I am learning. Additionally, when reading through the case illustrations, I was able to apply the teachings of my sociology background, such as social construction and dominant social narratives, and have a clearer understanding of how these can be used in therapy.
On account of personal preference, I found certain chapters more interesting than others. Chapter ten, “How Do Therapists of Same-Sex Couples `Do It’?” was a favorite of mine. Being open to either an opposite-sex or same-sex relationship myself, I could relate to the information described in both chapter ten and chapter two. It is true that there is limited research that can speak about the sexual difficulties of same-sex relationships, and I was glad to see that you both included these chapters. I found this book to also be intriguingly humorous. The double-meanings in some chapter headings such as, “Come Again? From Possibility Therapy to Sex Therapy,” “Out of My Office and Into the Bedroom,” “Just Between Us: A Relational Approach to Sex Therapy,” “Who Really Wants to Sleep With the Medical Model? An Eclectic/Narrative Approach to Sex Therapy,” and my personal favorite, “How Do Therapists of Same-Sex Couples `Do It’?” were a delightful aspect to the book. As mentioned in the introduction of this book, these chapter headings and titles grab the reader’s attention and hold it there. Sex therapy is indeed a “serious business,” but the lightheartedness of these chapter headings makes the book not only a “serious” read, but a fun one too. It is refreshing to know that you can read one of your class books for fun. You had mentioned in the introduction that this was one of your motives. Well, in my opinion you succeeded.
One other chapter that I enjoyed was chapter six, and how author Thorana S. Nelson “briefly” spoke about the different parts of family therapy that have helped to form her orientation to therapy, structural, Bowenian, behavioral, solution-focused, and narrative. For me, as a reader this helped me to better articulate the views behind the therapist and why she chose certain interventions. As a therapist, it is my orientation that you have to be able to make sense of your client’s behavior in order to form that therapeutic relationship of change. Vice versa, it is helpful for me to be able to make sense of the therapist in order to understand how change occurred.
The book was well written; therefore, I did not find anything to be significantly confusing. I understand that as a writer/editor, it is more helpful to receive criticisms as opposed to praise, but I do not want to find myself trapped into trying to find something out of nothing. Yet, this did not surprise me considering that I agree with the majority of the ideologies contained in the book. If anything, what I gained most from this book was a better understanding of how to put these theoretical principals into practice. It was an “out of the book and into my therapy room” experience. Thank You for this.
L. Queen
Valdosta State University
Family Therapy Student
Rating: 5 / 5