- ISBN13: 9781402208102
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Mutual satisfaction during lovemaking – true fulfillment for both partners – really matters, especially in long-term love relationships. But because of the way our bodies “interface” during straightforward intercourse, w… More >>
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Kudos to Kim Marshall for writing a clear, humorous, well-researched and down to earth manual on a little known ingredient for a satisfying sexual relationship!! I’m giving a copy to each of my grandchildren. Fiora Houghteling, Newton, MA
Rating: 5 / 5
This book is a must-read for anyone, from the curious to the jaded. It is a comprehensive, innovative addition for a realm to which, believe it or not, there is much more to add.
Rating: 5 / 5
Here is a powerhouse book that offers three approaches that insure
BOTH partners of mutual satisfaction during lovemaking. It’s about
time someone addressed the inevitable concerns of couples struggling
to keep the passion alive in their relationships in the long term and
committed to figuring out how! Now men can hear it straight from
another man who knows! Dr. Jackie Black, Relationship Expert, Educator and Coach
Rating: 5 / 5
“If you could be granted any wish, what would you change in your sex life?”
How would you begin to answer that question? More often partners are focused on the problem rather than the solution. Men typically wonder: Why does she seem so frustrated and bored with sex? Why won’t she tell me what she likes? Why does one-sided sex leave me feeling emotionally unfulfilled? Women typically feel a slow-burn resentment and guilt: Why doesn’t he pay attention to my needs? Why do I feel cheated and frustrated with sex? Why can’t I tell him how I feel? Why do I have difficulty reaching orgasm –or even lack any desire for sex? This enjoyable book answers those questions.
What is “The great sex secret”? The answer, says Kim Marshall, lies in a profound shift in thinking: “the idea that intercourse could and should give sexual satisfaction and emotional fulfillment to a woman.” Why focus on the woman? The reason is two-fold.
First, even with all the explicit sexual knowledge at our fingertips, many women are still shy about exploring their own sexuality, finding joy in doing so, and communicating what feels best to their partner. Marshall notes that partners “have had very little practice at putting their sexual likes and dislikes into words.” One explanation: ” . . . the imprint of early life experiences plays a major role in shaping sexual attitudes and behaviors.” Unfortunately, many of those early life influences campaign against pleasurable sexual abandon with a partner. He gives us a brief, fascinating history of sex to illustrate the long-entrenched problem of women’s dissatisfaction. Can you change? Of course, Marshall notes, “mutually satisfying lovemaking is learned.”
Second, the problem is “geography”: the location of the clitoris. During intercourse, it doesn’t gets the direct stimulation the penis gets, often leaving many woman unaroused and engaging in “multi-tasking”–planning dinner while their husbands are nearing orgasm. Men are often clueless as to why, when they are at the height of ecstasy, their partner is bored and angry. Marshall asks: “And where are men supposed to learn how to sensitively and appropriately stimulate the clitoris during love-making?” He then answers: “. . . the best place to learn how to make love is with a lover. And is there anything sweeter than a couple (safely) exploring and learning about sexual pleasure together? This is where a man can get the kind of honest minute-by-minute feedback that will help him progress from bumbling ignorance to loving proficiency.”
Marshall sums up the essence of the secret: “The key to long-term sexual happiness is having a strong love relationship and finding an effective, mutually satisfactory way to bring both the man and the woman to orgasm while they are together.” He identifies three approaches that work. This is a realistic, easy-to-read book that breaks the “conspiracy of silence” regarding female orgasms and thus helps guide lovers to true sexual pleasure and emotional intimacy.
Rating: 5 / 5
There are too many sex advice books. Most of them have 3-4 pages of useful information and a lot of ‘fluff’ to fill the book into a marketable product. The Great Sex Secret is really no exception. Would I ruin the author’s chances for a couple more bucks by telling the secret? Nah, not me. Someone else, maybe, but not me. OH OK! I’ll tell you, just stop your begging.
The secret: a man can stimulate a woman’s clitoris to orgasm at the same time he is having intercourse. That’s it.
Marshall makes the book worthwhile by including a decent review of the basic literature on sex research over the past 50 years. He also refers to ancient sex manuals, usually with the criticism that they provide no detail on technique. But Marshall is guilty of the same flaw. He informs us that a man can assume a position to stimulate the clitoris while making love, but provides no illustrations or details. You can probably figure it out, but many sex manuals on the market are not shy about providing specific details regarding positions, touch, pressure, placement of hands/fingers/mouth, etc. Marshall has written a good review of sex research, and managed to throw in a ‘secret’ that works. He loses a star, however, for being guilty of the very crime that he accuses others of committing.
Rating: 4 / 5